Dear Christine,
I HAVE a problem which I would like to share with you and your many readers. I want to see if you can tell me if what I have decided was the best thing to do in the situation which I will describe below.
I met a guy ten months ago. It was a very special relationship for me because we took everything “one step” at a time.
We were not going to have sex right away, because we both wanted to be sure that we were in love and not “in sex”. Well, as we hoped, it worked, and we were very much in love.
When one of us had anything on our mind that we thought involved the other, we always talked about it. I really thought we had it made you know, together forever and all that.
Then suddenly this guy would call me and say he is coming my way but would not turn up. He eventually stopped coming altogether. Christine, we had no fight, quarrel, nothing. He just went his way.
I got over it (even though I cried at first), remembering some of the good times we had together. One morning I woke up and decided not to cry anymore, even though I still loved and missed him.
One Sunday night a few weeks ago, my phone rang and to my surprise, he was on the line. He told me he loved me and wants to come back. He also said he misses me. I asked him why he left the way he did and he had no answer for this.
Anyhow, after a few days of persuasion, we decided to meet. When we did, we decided to start over again. I told him that if he was coming back to go away again, to forget the whole thing and stay away now.
Christine, do you believe I made the right decision in taking him back?
– B.L.
Dear B.L.,
Everybody deserves at least a second chance and I see no reason why you should not give the relationship another chance.
It is possible that some minor temptation might have lured him away from you in the first place, or he was beginning to feel the need of some so-called freedom. Well, he has had it (whatsoever “it” is) and he is back with you.
Your worth and all you mean to him must have come through pretty strong for him to return. It’s been a good relationship in the past which he probably learnt to appreciate lot more during the separation period.
That’s why I am inclined to think he deserves another chance. I hope this time around it will not only be a loving but a lasting relationship.
– CHRISTINE