DEAR CHRISTINE, I am in my late 30s and you must know that by this time I would have met a number of men who vary in many ways, but who as a rule are ready to demonstrate their so-called love.
So I find it very strange that the man I am in love with and who appears to need me, never says he loves me.
I wonder if it is that he is still hurt over his divorce some two years ago. Just the same, I feel as though I would explode at times with the love I have for him, and I long to tell him about it.
I would also like to get married to him and I feel he would make a wonderful husband and a father to my two sons, since we neither have husband nor father as the man in our lives died four years ago.
I love this man and I want to tell him so, but I don’t want to drive him away. I’m afraid any move of mine might be interpreted as forcing his hand.
– D
Dear D,
I can see no harm in saying “I love you” to this man who appears to care for you. But you will have to wait and see how that goes down before you approach the subject of marriage.
If in stating your feelings for him he does not respond the way you’d like him to, but in actual fact appears to feel threatened, you should pay attention to his actions and attitude.
However, it would be also be wise if you would consider a deadline for him to declare his intentions if marriage is on your mind.
If it is not on his, then there is no point in hanging on to a relationship that offers so little by the way of satisfying your wishes.
– CHRISTINE
