DEAR CHRISTINE, I am unhappy and at a loss to know what to do. I would like to tell you my story and see what you have to say about it.
I was going around with a boy for some 18 months before we became engaged. Everything was okay until then. Right after the engagement, it seemed we did nothing but quarrel. He would get into tempers enough to strike me.
He is insanely jealous and one time was very cruel to me when he came and saw a man sitting with me while I was having lunch.
The man means nothing to me. We work at the same place. Usually the girls sit together, but now and then one of the men would come and join us. I was alone that day and this man joined me.
My fiancé got on as though I were a prostitute on the streets. After this he started coming by me less and less and most of the time he is sulky. I am beginning to think this situation is impossible.
At times I look at other seemingly happy couples and wish with all my heart we could be more like them more often. Christine, on rare occasions, he is kind and loving. What do you think I should do?
– DJ
Dear DJ,
It is true we cannot always expect 100 per cent in our relationships but the sometimes you tell about is not often enough I’m sure. Think very carefully before you marry this man. Don’t be carried away with the odd happy time.
Just because you feel great with a man five per cent of the time does not mean you should imagine that he’s ever going to improve on that score. It strikes me that he is more often a pain in the neck than a pleasure to be with.
If he keeps up his present attitude, I suggest you consider getting out of this destructive relationship.
– CHRISTINE
