DEAR CHRISTINE, I READ ALL the advice that you give people so I decided to drop you a line.
I have lived with a man for three years. Up to late last year he kept telling me that “we will be married soon”, but a woman who has a child by him has come back into the picture.
He told me they were finished and he only supports the child, but now she is phoning him at my home and he is phoning her. She even goes to his workplace on some days.
After hearing about the child, I moved away from him and went with a man. Christine, I gave him back his engagement ring because I know I do not love him and the marriage won’t last.
I then asked my old boyfriend to take me back and he did. Things started to change again until this woman began calling him.
Please tell me what to do. I am looking for your answer soon.
– DY
Dear DY,
Unless a man has a strong sense of loyalty to the woman he is with, he is going to fall for others, especially if they make themselves easily available.
This particular woman who is after him is no ordinary person. She is the mother of his child and because of this, no doubt feels she is entitled to claim some of his time and attention. Unless he makes the total break, you are going to have her to contend with.
I don’t suppose she is any happier than you are, having to share him with you after all that existed between them, which resulted in the child.
You must be a believer in trying to weed out of your life anyone whose only contribution is deliberate misery.
It’s not always easy, but if you really sit and think about it, you will realise it is a waste of your precious time.
Life is also too short, and to offload misery is worth the while.
– CHRISTINE