Dear Christine,
I WANT to share my situation as clearly as I can because I am contemplating divorce.
My husband (who is not from here) and I have been married for two years. I got pregnant five months into our marriage and during my entire pregnancy we had sex four times.
When our daughter was born, my husband seemed very happy.
We have busy schedules, but what worries me is that since our baby was born, we have not had sex. I have tried everything to get my husband interested in having sex, but he says he does not feel like it anymore.
Christine, I am a frustrated wife with a sex drive. I told my husband I cannot continue like this, but he has offered no guarantee that he plans on “making up” for the several months of a sexless marriage.
I am at the point of giving up on my marriage. What can I do?
– P.L.
Dear P.L.,
I agree that you cannot continue like this. Unless your husband is suffering from depression or some other illness, I do not understand either why he not interested in sex. Could the strain of being a father be too much?
Certainly, the problem is not you. You will have a perfectly supportable reason to get divorced or have an annulment if this continues into a full year. Sex is not everything but in all fairness, it’s part of the marriage package. First find out if he is interested in seeing a trained counsellor or in fact, if he is still in love with you. If he is not, do what you have to do.
– CHRISTINE
