Dear Christine,
I AM FEELING a little ashamed about writing to you but I need to hear your views about my situation.
I have been married for five years to a man who is about the nicest husband you’ll find anywhere. We are both in our 40s and he has two children from a previous marriage. This is my first marriage and I have no children.
Christine, I never have sex with my husband during the day unless the curtains are drawn. Why? It is because I do not like my husband to see my body. He has never complained about this because I discussed it with him prior to getting married. On our honeymoon, we made love only at night and once during the day, but I had to do so with the curtains drawn.
When I was much younger, it was no problem to have sex at any time of the day. I went through many years as a single woman – about 12 years to be exact – where I had no intimacy or sex. I met my husband seven years ago and we only engaged in sex after our marriage.
My questions are these: Do you think that I am being fair to my husband? Is what I am experiencing a form of sickness?I need some answers to these questions.
– Wondering
Dear Wondering,
I am going to be short yet frank with you. Yes, I believe you are not being fair to your husband because your body belongs to him as much as it is yours.
However, if he is not complaining about the situation, who am I to try to offer you advice about it?
The question of whether or not this type of behavior is a form of sickness would be best answered by a psychologist, your family doctor or a marriage counsellor.
It would be in your best interest to seek out the services of one of these professionals.
– CHRISTINE
