MY MOTHER always warned me that friends could be dangerous as they knew your secrets and were the only ones who could talk you out. Though I understood this, it is only now that I have been betrayed that I really appreciate how right she was.
Right now two children don’t have a father to be with them, a woman hates her husband and wants a divorce, and my best friend has distanced himself from me, all because of what my ex-friend has done.
She got upset and stopped associating with me after I was promoted over her at work. No matter what I did to keep our friendship alive, nothing could reconcile us. She resented the idea that as her junior of six years in the company, I would be promoted higher than her.
But those feelings turned to hate seven months later when she was made redundant. No matter what I said to her, she is convinced that I had something to do with her sacking. She believes this because I always told her that her department had too many people for the tasks they did. So when the axe fell, she figured it was me – but it wasn’t.
So she determined in her twisted mind that I had to suffer for what she was going through. And the only way she could really hurt me was by breaking up my relationship with my best friend. She gave no thought to what her revenge could do to his family. She just wanted to hurt me.
Knowing my business, she wrote a letter to my friend’s wife telling her that he was in a long-standing relationship with me. She told her that I was not his younger cousin as we told her I was, but he had me from the time I was a student at the secondary school he used to teach at. He then helped to support me while I was at university overseas.
All of these things my ex-friend wrote are true. Since she was my confidante, I told her everything – so I can’t deny them.
But I would like to say a few things to this understandably angry wife:
I want you to know that your husband truly loved you and would never have left you for me or anyone else.
In fact, before this whole thing happened we had discussed at Christmas going our separate ways so he could focus on you and your daughters.
Don’t you realize that you have not seen me since Boxing Day? That wasn’t accidental.
He has been trying to distance himself from me because of his love for you.
Again, I can prove his love for you. He has not come around me in any way since you received the letter in late February, and everything between the two of you went downhill.
If he was really as worthless as you said, don’t you think we would have been together all like now?
I know I am the last person you want to hear from but I want you to know that your husband made his choice years ago when he married you. I made myself available to him because I love him. We were intimate because I pushed it most of the time, but at the end of the day it was always you.
I know I, too, would hate a man who deceived me too, but as the other woman in his life and I can tell you in all honesty that though we were together he loved only you. That is why I am begging you to give him a chance.
I am responsible for this problem because I would not stay away from him even when he was pushing me away. So please don’t take it out on him. It’s my fault he strayed. He loves you and the girls; don’t break that up.
