Dear Christine,
I am a man who has a wife and I am in a mess.
She was away for a while and during that time I felt quite lonely. As a result I started seeing one of our friends.
Just so that people won’t think anything of our being together we would go places where we were not known. It was all very quiet.
Now, even though she knows my wife is back, she is hounding me down. Practically every day she comes to my place of work and has even started calling me at home to say “hello”.
What can I do? Doesn’t she understand that I am married?
– FRED
Dear Fred,
You are experiencing the repercussions of unfaithfulness. And what you must now do is apologize to this woman, let her know you have no intention of leaving or hurting your wife, and that it was never your plan to make your times together with her a lifetime affair.
I hope if your wife ever has to be away from home again you’ll find quality friends with whom you can hang out – people who would not become so attached to you as this young lady has become. Maybe, however, she is doing this based on what you have led her to believe.
It will not be easy for her to know that she was dated and wooed when it suited you, now to be dropped because your wife has returned.
Do what you have to do quickly. I sense that time is essential here.
– CHRISTINE
