Dear Christine,
I have been married for just over a year and I am having a hard time fighting jealousy.
I am even jealous if my husband says something nice about someone we meet or even people on TV.
He says things like: “She looks good. Look at that.” Do you think he should be making these kinds of statements in front of me?
Sometimes I get very upset with him and don’t speak to him for hours and days – but it is always because of my jealousy.
Christine, I am very afraid my behaviour will come to harm my marriage and I don’t want it to come to that. What can I do? I am also pregnant – three months to be exact – and I am wondering if this will also affect my pregnancy.
– LP
Dear LP,
Your concerns are valid. You can affect your marriage and even have a terrible pregnancy if you continue to be overly jealous of your husband.
Has he ever been unfaithful to you? If he has been, then that should concern you, not the fact that he finds another woman attractive – especially those on the television.
On the other hand, however, I believe you need to sit your husband down and have a heart-to-heart talk with him.
Let him know of your insecurities and your jealousy. It could be that he is not sensitive enough to your feelings.
Also, remember that your husband may be married to you, but that does not mean he will not find other women attractive.
Do not take it as an indication that he is ready to hop into bed with them. Don’t you find some members of the opposite sex handsome? If you do, I’m sure it does not mean you want to carry on an affair with them.
Have that chat and have some faith in your husband.
Things will work out if you can overcome those feelings of jealousy.
– CHRISTINE
