Dear Christine,
I AM a man who has a wife, and I am in a mess.
My wife was overseas for a while, and during that time I felt quite lonely and would go out with one of our friends. Just so that people wouldn’t think anything
of our being together, we would go to places where we were not known. It was all very quiet.
Now, even though she knows my wife is back, she is hounding me down. Practically every day she comes to the place where
I work, and she has even started calling me at home–to say “hello”, she says. What can I do?
– V
Dear V,
I do not believe you are being honest with me. There seems to be more in the mortar than the pestle. I would think all you needed to do if it was an “innocent time between just friends” while your wife was abroad, was to let her know your wife was back and you could no longer entertain her; although, mind you, you certainly could have stuck it out, or go out with the boys instead, while “wifey” was away.
Having said that, you must let this woman know you are not interested in her other than being a friend – some friend, I would say.
It must be hard on her to be dated when it suited you only to be dropped without apparent reason.
– CHRISTINE