DEAR CHRISTINE, I HAVE BEEN LIVING in hell for the past three years, after discovering that my husband was seeing another woman. Not many people know about this since we live very quiet lives. The woman whom he was seeing also lived quietly.
Up to that time we had a very good marriage.
All I could do was pray that he got over this woman. My prayers were answered and two months ago he gave her up. We talked about the situation, and since I still love my husband very much, I never throw this back in his face or talk about his infidelity.
All was seemingly going well until she told him that she is expecting a baby.
Since we are back together he tells me everything. When he told me this I asked him what he was going to do about it. He said he would not go back to her again but that he would support the child when it comes. I am so afraid for him to do so.
He says I am not to worry because he is sorry about the past and wishes he could undo the things that were done.
Do you think I could trust him?
– MJ
Dear MJ,
In spite of the infidelity, your husband seems to want to leave his past with this woman behind, but recognises it is his duty to support that child when it comes.
I see nothing wrong with this, and he is being honest and upfront with you when he says he will do so. Give him your support, as much as you forgave him.
I am also glad to know that both you and your husband have worked on saving your marriage.
It is natural for you to become anxious over this new development and your husband’s decision to help.
Please remember that this unborn child is completely innocent. It would not be right for you to begrudge or hate him or her because your husband has taken a stand to face up to his responsibility.
– CHRISTINE