Dear Christine,
I AM ONE OF THOSE WOMEN who fell in love with a married man. I did not go after him, he came after me. At that time he was separated from his wife.
Now, after almost two years together like man and wife, he has returned to his wife. His excuse was that he could not get her out of his house and he was not prepared to let her enjoy the comforts of his labour – of course he is referring to the house which he owns.
Christine, I know from lots of other things that there is more than that. He’s fretful with me and he spends a lot more time home than he needs to. I asked him the last time he was with me if he ever gets free if he would marry me, and he said he would.
I know I should make a break which is what you will probably tell me to do, and I’m trying. I just wanted to share my problem with you.
– A
Dear A,
It’s always good to wake up from a bad dream as there is absolutely no doubt that this man’s wife has re-entered the picture. Chances are, she was always in the picture, even when you were living with her husband.
Being together LIKE man and wife is not the same thing as being together AS man and wife. Do you get it? Playing house usually means that sometimes you’ve got to face the reality that a house and a home are not really the same.
You are right in stating that I will tell you to make that break. In fact, you should make that break now – without any further delay.
– CHRISTINE
