Dear Christine,
THIS IS NOT a letter seeking your advice, but one that I have written to enlighten young girls and women alike.
We females need to realise that not every guy who tells you “I love you” is actually being truthful. Most of them say that to get between your legs.
It’s time that we females “wise up” and understand what is happening. Most guys are just counting up the amount of females they will sleep with before they “settle down”.
Males must be able to show us women the respect, honour, faithfulness and kindness we deserve. The same thing goes for us females. There are too many gullible young women out there. Once a guy says “I love you”, they are ready to jump into bed with him.
If you have a boyfriend and he claims you must “strengthen” the “love” by sleeping with him, don’t do it. Your body is more valuable than diamonds or any jewel found on this earth. We have to take pride in what God has given us and stop being so naïve.
Some guys would promise you heaven, the stars even the universe, but once they get what they want from you, they will leave.
In addition, stay away from guys who want to cut you off from friends and family. They might just be the abusive type. You should also stay away from those who want to know where you are, who you are talking to, or even who you’re with 24/7. They might be “the abusive stalker” type.
Women, wise up. Realise that some men only see us as their conquest in their journey through life. We have to respect ourselves first. We must also love ourselves first.
Most importantly are those wives with children who believe that although their partners are constantly cheating on them, they should stay in the relationship “because of the children”. No! Children should not be raised in those kinds of environments.
We also have those women who are abused but keep convincing themselves that they love the man and he will change. Wise up! You are nothing but a punching bag to him. As for changing, you’re better off leaving him because only God could change him, not you.
I am in no way just bashing the men. Some women offend men just as much and some men allow women to run all over them. I will never condone violence but sometimes it is necessary for men to talk to their wives or girlfriends and let them know that the man is the head of the home. Let them know that you’re the one wearing the pants and that you deserve just as much respect as you give them.
It’s about time we all wise up. This new generation needs to know how to live respectful lives and how to love themselves. For too many of them, life is just about partying, having unprotected sex and smoking.
Some of them do not care about anyone, not even themselves.
Some enjoy being on the block and think that it’s the “in thing”; that it is “cool”. It is not.
Too many of our young men/boys are ending up in prison and our young women/girls are ending up pregnant with multiple children from different fathers.
Young people, wise up. Get a sound education and chase whatever dream you had before you turned to drugs and sex. Nothing comes easy, so focus and study hard. It will be worth it in the end. Change needs to happen.
Thank you.
– Outspoken
Dear Outspoken,
Your letter is timely, with sound advice for young people, as well as adults – both males and females.
Thanks so much for your valuable contribution to this column.
It is a delight to share your advice with readers. There is nothing I can add or take away from what you have written.
– CHRISTINE