Dear Christine,
My daughter died a fewyears ago after an illness. Shewas just 33. Her husband was wonderful and did everythingfor her. But, Christine, a year after her death he met someone else,and a few weeks later they wenton holiday.
Christine, we knew he would meet someone else and we want him to be happy, but it’s been so quick. He has three boys who seem to be happy with the situation. I don’t want to quarrel with my son-in-law.
Apart from being a good husband to our daughter he has always been a good friend – but he put away almost all of the photographs of my daughter soon after he met this new woman.
Christine, is this normal?
– R.P.
Dear R.P.,
People deal with grief differently, and this may include a new relationship sooner than others might consider appropriate. I understand how hurtful his behaviour might seem, but I’m sure the last thing he would want to do is upset you.
He obviously loved your daughter very much and perhaps as a result now finds himself unable to be on his own. Please don’t see him as disloyal to your daughter’s memory, but rather as doing what it takes to help him through his loss.
Don’t interfere with his life, but do let him know you’re still there for him and the children. He’s been a good, faithful, loving husband to your daughter. Much as everyone misses her, he deserves to have a loving companion in his life.
Unless you have some genuine reason not to welcome this new woman into the family circle, which includes your grandsons, open your heartand home to her.
– CHRISTINE