Dear Christine,
NEARLY EVERY WEEK I hear and read about people cheating and having affairs.
Christine, I know that the men get most of the lashes and criticisms when it comes to unfaithfulness, but I will be fair and say that all the blame should not fall on them.
We women are many times at fault.
Christine, there is this man I have known for many years who decided he was getting married to a non-national. From the time he tied the knot, it has been nothing but cat . . . and pepper in that home – around the house, in the streets, in front the children, all over the place.
He is a decent man – he works and goes home – but that seems not to be enough for her. For a long time she was carrying on like that; the woman even went as far as to tell him that when she finished with him, he wouldn’t even have the clothes on his back.
She should be sent back to where she came from so that this man can have a good life for a change. If you hear the insults and the disturbing comments she makes about him, it would make your stomach sick. He just stays in there and says or does nothing about it. Everything she gets her hands on belonging to him she destroys.
Christine, I want you to know there are still good men out there, but they are making bad decisions.
Some of us women don’t know when to pack up and walk away, because only “independent women” pack up and walk away. Dependent women stay and make everybody’s life miserable.
Christine, he needs to drop her fast and find someone nice to enjoy his life with. It just hurts my heart to see such a nice man suffer so.
– J.A.C.
Dear J.A.C.,
I think you need to keep out of your neighbour’s business. If the man is so unhappy, then I am sure he knows what to do. If he stays and, as you say, “does nothing”, then he must like something there . . . or be a sucker for punishment.
Who he decides to marry is nobody else’s business but his own. He is a grown man to make his own decisions and bear the consequences.
My advice is that that you stay clear – if he wants his wife to leave him alone, he will tell her to, or if it’s so unbearable, he’ll leave when he’s ready.
I also suggest that you close your eyes and ears sometimes so that you don’t see or hear so much.
– CHRISTINE
