DEAR CHRISTINE, I live with a man who is ordering me to get in at a certain time.
Can you imagine that when I am going to work, he says he believes I am going to another man’s house? Yet he comes in all hours of the foreday morning.
He simply shows me no respect and is always insulting me. Yet he says he loves me.
I am an honest woman. I do not run around with anyone but this man is constantly picking on everything I do.
I just can’t bear this anymore. He’s always putting me down, when I’m the one who goes the extra mile. He has a shop and I spend long hours in the night helping him. What more does he need?
He even tells me off for a woman that is married and who lives next door to us. This woman is married but he defends her. Everything I do he finds fault with.
I am hurting, Christine, and I need some advice. Should I go, or stay and hope he changes?
– TIRED AND CONFUSED
Dear Tired And Confused,
You need to walk away from this demoralising situation – like yesterday.
This man’s attitude shows insecurity and ingratitude. He probably knows what he is guilty of regarding unfaithfulness.
I hope if you still care for him after all these unhappy experiences, he’ll come to realise how blessed he is. If he cares for you other than being his slave and puppet, he’ll change his attitude.
It would be unfair for him, or anyone for that matter, to expect you to remain in this relationship if all you’re getting is a dose of distrust and heartache.
Don’t let him try to tell you it’s because he loves you. Love is trusting. Let him not judge you by what I suspect he is guilty of.
– CHRISTINE
