DEAR CHRISTINE, I am fuming, really fuming right now. I have noticed that most of the letters you receive from readers are about married men who have relationships outside of their marriages.
Some people argue that you should blame the men, but I am taking a different stand and I am going to put the blame squarely on the shoulders of women. Christine, I am a woman. I am not married but I have had my share of relationships.
People keep on blaming the men for having outside women. They hardly blame the women, but I am here today to say that women are the ones who inflict pain and suffering on their women folk.
Christine, I have had married men running me down for years. I have been promised a car, house, money – you name it and I turned down all the above.
I say the women are to blame because they should consider the innocent wives – a woman like them, whom they are hurting. If women will keep their legs shut when the married men come onto them, this world would be a better place. It is a man’s “job” to try to win over women, but the women have the ball in their court when it comes to starting affairs. They can simply send the men packing, knowing that unless they do, some child’s mother, some woman’s daughter will be hurt.
From the days of Adam and Eve, the woman has always been the one to cause trouble. We women hurt each other cruelly without a thought of how our actions will affect entire households, leave children having to experience challenges and sometimes the break-up of mommy and daddy’s relationship.
Christine, women can be sly and deceitful. I am not saying that men are not, but the whole purpose of my letter is to talk to you about how women destroy marriages and set families apart. They plot and plan without taking one thought of the “sister” they are hurting in the process.
The women are the ones who have the ability to say no, when married men come calling. There is no doubt that the men will come and try to sweet talk their way. But good Lord, you know he is married and still you set the stage to have sexual relations with him? I have absolutely no respect for women who encourage men who are married and have relationships with them.
The sister [wife] must then go through hell to keep her head up and to go on with her life. Christine, I am still fuming because I see too many wives experiencing sorrow and grief, all because a woman did not have the strength to say “no”. Maybe they don’t care one damn about who they hurt. When children are involved, it is even worse.
I wish that women would see the truth in what I am saying. We all have the ability to say no to affairs, but many women think that having someone else’s husband makes them some kind of super star. Well, I am here to say that it does not. You put yourself in a very dangerous position. That’s why you then have to write to Dear Christine, about the trouble you begin to experience. After the married man gets what he wants from one, he moves on to another.
I wish women would respect themselves and stop hurting each other.
Christine, I know my letter is long, but I have a lot more to say and will do so in another letter. Maybe in that letter I would address the married men who often have good wives, but mess up themselves by getting involved with other women.
I think it is heart-breaking when you think about it.
– PG
Dear PG,
I have a clear picture of you fuming your way through as you wrote this letter. I agree with most of what you have said, because, women do hurt other women when they get involved in extra marital relationships.
I can only hope that those who are guilty will learn from your letter and do the honourable thing – which is to leave married men alone when they come whining and crying about their marriages. In fact, most of the time, the wives are probably dutiful, with no faults, but the women buy into the deception. Oh that they would learn.
– CHRISTINE
