Dear Christine,
MY BOYFRIEND HAS left me and I don’t feel I can go on without him.
What I cannot understand is how he could have changed after telling me how different I was from all the other girls he knew. He would brag about how easy it was to get them to do whatever he wanted, but I did not fall for his first invitation to have sex.
This is true, Christine. He and I went out for four months and nothing happened between us. He said he loved and respected me for this. It was not until we started talking about marriage that I allowed him to have sex with me.
Now it’s almost a month since, and he had stopped coming by. At first he told me that he was busy as he does some work on the side, but now he lets his sister or mother tell me, whenever I call the house, that he is not at home. I know most of the time they are lying.
On top of this, I hear that he is going around with another girl.
What do you think I should do Christine?
– N
Dear N,
You should recognise the plain truth that your boyfriend is a very cunning operator. He bided his time, filled you with flattery about being different to the other girls until you became like the other girls; and like them, you are now on his list of “girlfriends of the past”.
I really don’t think he cared for you beyond what he could get out of you. You perhaps took a little longer, but now he’s had his fill, he is on his clever way to get another poor girl to fall for his flattery, including that lie that he is contemplating marriage.
There is nothing you can do about it, except save your pride by not calling him. If he wanted you, you would have been around all this time.
– CHRISTINE
