DEAR CHRISTINE, In a few months I expect to be married to my boyfriend who I have known for just over a year. There is just one thing that bothers me and it is his constant questioning over another boyfriend I had long before I met him.
He knows that I was living with my ex. When I first told him, he said to me that that is all behind us. Yet, he still comes back with more questions. At times he gets angry about what has happened.
He is also very suspicious. This makes it difficultfor me even to have a girlfriend. I think if he could have his way, I would not even go to work where men are.
I am beginning to wonder whether marriage with him would work.
Please advise me Christine, as I am very unhappy and confused.
– B.W.
Dear B.W.,
I think that if a man keeps you in a state of unhappiness and confusion because he won’t let go of the past, then you have no real future with such a person.
His constant suspicion must make you unhappy. As such, marriage with him would be a rather risky business.
Don’t expect him to change if you two got married. In fact, he will see you as his property and could make life much more miserable than you could ever think or imagine.
Throw in the towel on this one. You don’t need a relationship that is so toxic.
– CHRISTINE