DEAR CHRISTINE, I met a man a few months ago and I fell very much in love with him. Everything went well until I found out he has a young baby for someone else.
When I asked, he said it was true but he did not tell me because he did not know what I would say.
I told him to get out of my life because I knew that the baby and girl needed him more than I did.
Christine, when it all started I did not know I was carrying his child. I don’t want him back in my life. My family keeps telling me that what I am doing is not right.
They told me that my baby is going to need a father but they did not say that the other child is going to need a father too. I don’t want either of them to suffer. I just don’t want that man in my life.
– BH
Dear BH,
You are the best person to make a decision about whether or not you will have that man back in your life; not your family.
As regards the baby needing a father, this would be a worthwhile thing to aim for, for I doubt very much that he would have all that interest in the child if he could not get back to you. I would like to be wrong in this regard.
Some women can live with this sort of arrangement, with their menfolk having children from other women, but there is no law that says you have to.
Maybe if he cares a lot for you he might consider marriage. If this is so, I am sure you will encourage him to support the other child.
– CHRISTINE
