DEAR CHRISTINE, I am 18 years old and my boyfriend is 30. He has two children from a woman and I have none. This man is saying that this woman is living at him because of his children.
He comes by me every night and does not leave until around 11 p.m at the earliest. I work for myself and he also works for himself.
The thing is, whenever the woman sees me she has a lot to say. Sometimes she would pass by where I work and talk a lot of foolishness, but I have nothing to say.
This man is now telling me that he would like a child. He also told me to look for a house and let both of us live together but when we do this he would still go by his children.
Do you think I should go and get a child for him or leave my parents and go live with him? Please tell me what to do. I am looking for your reply.
M.C
Dear M.C:
It would not be advisable to have a child merely to please this man or to leave your parents’ home for one provided by him.
In looking around, can you think of one such relationship in which the couple is happy for any length of time? You are still very young and I am sure with some personal appreciation of yourself you could make an effort to make something more worthwhile of your life than setting up house with this man.
Keep on with your job and study to improve yourself. In a little while you should be able to make wiser and happier choices than what you are presently involved in and which threatens to get you into a deeper hole.
Rise and shine! Don’t follow the mob of women who are baited into living relationships with irresponsible men who will keep things going until they see someone else they want to play house with.
I don’t believe this man is going to stick around. You should end this relationship and wait for someone who is not carrying around so much baggage – two children and a woman with whom he lives.
You can do a whole lot better than that, don’t you think?
Christine
