Dear Christine,
SOME six years ago I met a married man who works where I do.
He was very helpful in introducing me to my duties and explaining various aspects of my work to me.
He was truly a friend, but it did not end there.
I have been seeing him in a more personal and intimate way for the past four years.
I have fallen in love with him and from what he says to me, I know he feels the same way about me.
We have done a lot of talking about the matter and he wants me to wait until his children are older before approaching his wife for a divorce.
Since we get along so well I am wondering if I should wait for him.
His youngest child is six, so it is going to be some time before he gets “older”. Should I really wait for him, Christine?
– H.
Dear H,
If you are a regular reader of this column you would know that I am against a third party in a marriage.
You’ll also know that I receive quite a few letters from single women who are involved with married men.
The details may be different, but most of the men all seem to be making that promise that they will leave their wives and home when . . .
It’s always when the children are older. Statistics show that not many married men actually leave their wives. You are the one who will have to do the leaving . . . that is, leaving him alone.
How much longer are you two bent on deceiving his wife?
Surely you must know their relationship must still be intact for him to be still at home – otherwise he would leave his wife right away and not use the children as an excuse to stay at home.
How long will it take before the children are all grown up anyway? I really don’t think you should wait for the tides to change. Get a partner of your own. He’s already taken!
– CHRISTINE