Dear Christine,
I have never had cause to write a letter to your column before, but I felt compelled to do so when I read the letter in Tuesday’s DAILY NATION dated March 6, and headlined In A Bind Over Proposal.
I am amazed as to why that woman would be questioning her man’s commitment to her and her children.
Many women would love to be in her position; have a man who loves her and respects her. Why have we been conditioned to think that if a man stays home with his family, treats his woman fantastic and does not cheat or physically abuse them that the man is soft?
Please women, wake up and realize that there are some very good men who genuinely respect and care for us.
Don’t let friends who may be jealous rob you of your happiness. Do not listen to them. Listen to your heart. Let the actions of your man speak for themselves. Love yourself as well, and realize you deserve to be loved and be treated like a queen.
Encouraging you to be your own person and giving you the freedom to go out with your friends is not an indication that he does not care; it means he trusts you and knows you are coming home to him. It’s up to you not to break his trust in you.
I am getting married to a man I love with all my heart. He treats me and our five children very well (three children are mine and two are his) and makes me happy.
I’m not so lucky, in that we do not go on lots of trips all over the place like this woman does, (smile) but we are in love. His family likes me and my family have really embraced him.
He encourages me to hang out with my friends and he hangs out with his friends whenever he wants to. Often times, he loves to be at home.
To think of my man as soft because he does these things would be ridiculous. He is not perfect, but I thank God for him every day. He treats me like a queen and I am very blessed to have him. I cannot wait to marry him in a couple months’ time.
My advice to this dear reader, is, if she truly loves this man and he loves her and the children, she should go ahead, marry him and enjoy their lives together.
Her biggest mistake would be to let a third party into the relationship to make her doubt what a good committed man she has found.
I pray she makes the right decision.
– Lucky in Love
Dear Lucky In Love,
Your response is similar to that of others who have expressed their surprise at this woman’s hesitation to marry this man who truly cares, loves and respects her.
You’ve truly spoken on behalf of those who may not take the time like you did to put their response in writing.
Thanks, and I wish you every success in your nuptials.
– CHRISTINE