DEAR CHRISTINE, I need some advice. I am 17 and in love with a guy who is 25 years old. He is a hard worker, very determined to achieve his goals.
He is also very intelligent, nice and considerate at times. Basically he likes his work and he is planning for his future. I, myself, love him very much.
The problem is this. We have known each other for many years, but only got deeply involved last year. Things were nice at first. Now he is spending more and more time with his work, or so he says.
I understand he is very busy, but I feel left out. He only takes me to the movies and nowhere else, because he says people would have a lot to say, considering the age difference.
That makes sense but could he be using it as an excuse? He says it would be better to keep things quiet.
The only time we kiss is when we make love.
I don’t feel needed anymore. Even when we are alone it is as if we’re just friends. He does not even hug me.
– L.J.
Dear L.J.,
If the relationship between you and this man is so lacking in companionship, why are you hanging on to him? There seems to be nothing definite between you. You are relying too much on this man. In case you do not know, a man does not have to be in love with a woman to have sex with her and neither does a woman.
Life is too short to just hang around waiting on someone who does not seem to have the time for you.
Get out among your friends. If he really loves you, he will come to some sort of satisfactory decision. If he does not, good riddance to a time-waster.
– CHRISTINE
