Dear Christine,
MY MARRIAGE has been rocky lately. It’s not just one problem, but a general awakening that we may not have been meant to be married.
We seem to be growing further and further apart. My husband has been having little flings and so have I. His mother says the only way to cement our marriage is for me to get pregnant.
We have no children and we’d both agreed we were not ready for them. Something in me keeps screaming that I do not want to wait until it’s too late to start a family, but I want to keep my husband.
I am confused. Sometimes I go aside and cry for a bit and this seems to ease the situation. Other times, I put my hands up in the air and wish for things to be a lot better than they are right now.
I wish I knew how to turn back the hands of time to those moments we enjoyed with each other. Will getting a child solve the problem?
– D.P.
Dear D.P.,
Children can sometimes add stress to any relationship and they won’t and should not be expected to revive or save a marriage. To believe otherwise is unrealistic and grossly unfair to the child.
Some couples assume a child will strengthen their relationship. If they are having problems before the birth of a baby, this lovely addition to the family can add more problems.
A new baby not only restricts the parents’ economic, social and sexual freedom, but may serve as a wedge between them.
A baby is precious and needs mature parents who really want, and are prepared for what a new arrival brings. Babies are not toys. They need to be loved, constantly cared for and appreciated.
– CHRISTINE
