Dear Christine,
PLEASE GIVE ME some advice. My husband and I have been together for 22 years, during which he was often mean and also had a number of affairs. In fact, he had an outside child.
My job paid more money than his, and because of that he did not think he had to give me money. However, I decided that he would have to pay half the bills. We have two children who are now working.
He has his own house and I have mine. He has most of his things at his house. We both retired a few years ago and decided to move back to here.
I always pay for the children’s clothes and holidays.
In recent years we have been sleeping in separate rooms, with little or no communication between us. I have refused to speak to him because despite his advancing years, he is still chasing after all these women.
It’s not that I am not jealous of him, for I don’t care. I am just tired of putting up with all his lies and all the women he had.
I will never have a relationship with him again because, added to his “wuflessness”, he has told lies on me. I am a very independent woman so I can look after herself.
– C.J.T.
Dear C.J.T.,
Instead of advice I would like to congratulate you on getting out of the kind of relationship you were in.
There was no love, no loyalty and somewhat forced support.
Of course we have the “for better or worse bit” to consider but there comes a time there’s too much hurt, anger and neglect and one should move away and so salvage one’s own happiness and welfare.
So the only advice I would have for you is to look forward to enjoying a life free of the problems of the past.
– CHRISTINE
