Dear Christine I am writing this letter with tears running down my cheeks. I don’t know if I am coming or going.
Christine, I never knew how valuable life was until I lost my dad around Christmas time, and ever since I haven’t gotten over his death. I am going through a stage of deep depression. I’m having a lot of family problems and feelings of very low self-esteem.
I just hated myself. I have no idea why. I would joke about death to my friends, and a few times I would even talk about trying to kill myself. All I want to do is go where I would feel no pain and no sadness. No one else really pays any attention to me or seems to care that I’m fading away. I think about my dad all the time and can’t get him off my mind.
Christine, I finally realise that I will take the easy way out. I don’t want to live anymore. The pain is too much to bear. Christine, I know you help people, but you can’t help me. I’m hurting so much. Bye, Christine. – S
DEAR S: My deepest sympathy on the death of your father, but please do not give up on life. I pray that I am not too late to help. Because you can be helped. You have left no phone number or address, so I can only hope you are reading this.
If you are, I would like you to call the Bereavement Hotline at 437-3630 It is a hotline that is manned 24 hours with people who will listen to you and will help you to feel better about yourself.
Life sometimes deals us heavy blows, but once “you can look up, you can get up”, according to motivational speaker Les Brown.
We all reach a stage at some point in our lives when we believe that we can’t go on, but we must. Life is very precious and can be very beautiful. At the moment it is not very beautiful for you, but, please turn to God with prayer and also try the hotline.– CHRISTINE.
GUEST COLUMN: For tourism’s sake
A real decision is measured by the fact that you’ve taken a new action. If there’s no action, you haven’t truly decided. – Tony RobbinsAGAIN I find myself compelled to comment about what is happening in the tourism industry in Barbados. For years I have heard fellow members in this industry cry out about the issues that are seriously impacting their operation – with little or no action by the authorities empowered to ensure the viability.At the time, I was not directly connected to the industry, and hence did not fully understand their frustrations. That situation has changed and I now fully appreciate the sense of helplessness, shared by these pioneers in tourism.Two articles caught my attention in Tuesday’s Daily Nation of May 11 under the headlines Call To Action and Safety First. In the first instance president of the Barbados Association of Public Secondary Schools, Winston Crichlow, coincidentally a former teacher of mine, was stating his opinion on the non-action of relevant entities in this country.He said: “Our society suffers from inaction, where we look at the causes of problems; but there is no will to take the next step.”I agree with Mr Crichlow. This paralysis has taken root in our society, and primarily in Government agencies, where I fear that the prognosis for improvement is bleak. “This culture of non-action is so ingrained in our being, that I don’t believe we have the will to respond. When this is coupled with the added ingredient of politics, I fear that the issues will never be addressed, except in the form of “think tanks” and “talk shops”.The other article has Acting Prime Minister Freundel Stuart saying that rising crime rates, harassment of visitors and drug trafficking are critical issues threatening the sustainability of Caribbean tourism.Here, Stuart is looking at the issues from a regional perspective. In essence, these situations not only impact tourism in Barbados, but in the wider Caribbean. There is of course a direct link between drug trafficking and beach harassment, as any individual in the industry would be aware. Hence, if we can control one of these problems, we will see a reduction in the other. Thus, I’m in complete agreement with the sentiments expressed by Stuart. What I would like to know now is what are we as a country going to do about it? What plan of action will the Government come up with to stem the rising crime rate, the beach harassment of visitors and the drug trafficking which are adversely affecting our tourism?When will these plans be put into operation? Which agencies are responsible for ensuring that each area gets adequate resources to combat the particular problem? Who will be held accountable to ensure that results are obtained and who will have responsibility for maintenance of these programmes?These are the questions I would like to have answered. But will anyone answer them? I think not.We will continue to analyse the problems, identify the issues and speak glowingly of how we have to control these problems for the sake of our tourism industry. Or we will attempt to take action far too late and be unable to save the industry that is our main source of economic development.Let us put politics aside and truly to understand the impact of our lack of action over the years. Successive governments have failed to support the private sector in its attempts to address pertinent issues like beach harassment, which adversely affect the tourism. Their lack of support is cloaked by the passing of bills in the House of Assembly, but the true nature is revealed when despite these laws, policies and procedures, no agency is held accountable when it is clear that they are not actively enforcing the laws, policies or procedures.However, I do not want to dwell on things in the past; what I’m interested in is the future. Thus, I am asking the Government of this country what are we going to do about the problems identified by the Acting Prime Minister in the aforementioned article. I await your answer. This article was submitted as a letter to The Editor.