Dear Christine,
I have a big problem and I’m not sure where to turn or what to do. I am two months pregnant and my boyfriend of six years wants me to have an abortion, which I am against.
His argument is that we already have a four-year-old son and with the state of the economy and our plans to get our own property, along with other things, right now would not be the best time to have a child.
But, Christine, my mind is made up about not having an abortion.
I am in my mid-30s and have a stable job, so why should I not have this child? I would not like to raise him or her alone as I believe children need the love of both parents, but I would prefer to do that than live with the fact that I terminated the life growing inside of me.
Do you think it would it be wrong for me to follow my mind – that is, to leave my boyfriend and raise this child by myself?
– SK
Dear SK,
I am not for an abortion as that is killing an innocent child.
I cannot agree with your having an abortion as well because you would not be doing it for medical complications.
You are gainfully employed and I feel if you keep the child – his and yours – in time he will be glad you did not kill it.
If he doesn’t budge from that position and continues to put materialism over the life of his child, then you have a serious decision to make.
Like you, I believe that children need love in a household that, preferably, has both parents. But loving, devoted mothers, as we have seen, can do wonders in raising well adjusted children.
I think your boyfriend has put the cart before the horse here. His unborn child, not how tight things are, should be his priority.
Also, what about marriage? If the two of you are planning to build a home together, already have a child, with another on the way, and have been a couple for six years, aren’t you thinking of being wed?
If you’re good enough for all of these things, aren’t you good enough for marriage?
Perhaps that is something you need to consider as well.
– CHRISTINE