Dear Christine,
I am a 23-year-old young man who still happens to be a virgin.
I never discussed my virginity with anyone until I met my present girlfriend. We have been going out for the past six months. Christine, she is a nice, pleasant young woman whom I love a great deal.
She is 20 years old, but she is not a virgin, as she was in a relationship prior to our meeting. However, since disclosing to her that I have been saving myself until the right person comes along, she is living with guilt because she believes she should have done the same thing.
We are both Christians, but she only became a believer since we met. What has me so concerned is that she seems not able to forgive herself for losing her virginity before marriage.
I have tried to tell her that now she is going to church and serving God, He has forgiven her of her past and she needs to look forward to a much brighter future.
Christine, just three weeks ago, she told me that she is not good enough for me. I would love to get it in her head that I love her despite her past and that I intend to marry her at all costs. Â
We have not discussed this situation with anyone, but I am seeking your advice.
– T.W
Dear T.W,
Your girlfriend needs to forgive herself and realize that she can do nothing about her past. She cannot attempt to change it; it’s already done.
I believe you have done all you can to reassure her you’re there for her, no matter what. It is really up to her to accept the forgiveness offered by God and move on from there. Â
There’s no one who is perfect – virgin or not – and she needs to understand this. Â
I would recommend that both of you pray about this situation, as well as seek the counsel of your pastor.
–?CHRISTINE
