Dear Christine, I am not from your country, but I need your advice before I go crazy.
Two months ago I was raped by one of my husband’s best friends.
My husband was out of town and this man showed up at our home, saying he had a message for me.
I let him in and immediately saw that he was drunk and violent.
At first, after he raped me, I could not move.
I was more frightened than I have ever been in my life.
I could not talk for two days.
I did not answer my telephone either. I just pretended I was not there.
All this time I’ve lived with this and I have never told anyone – not even a friend. I am afraid to tell my husband because I think he would blame me.
He still sees this man and brings him home and I have to make up little excuses to be out of the house. I do not know what to do. I feel sick in almost every way.
Now, I don’t even want my husband to touch me, but naturally, he does not know this.
– L
Dear L,
You are living in a mental prison, and the sooner you free yourself, the better it will be for you. Failing to do so will eventually affect your physical health.
This feeling of mental, emotional and physical “sickness” that you have is not going to go away until you talk with someone about the terrible thing that has happened.
This man should be apprehended, but unfortunately, because so much time has elapsed, the police might do little more than take notes.
They should always be notified immediately, in cases of rape, so they can acquire the necessary evidence and take action.
You need to confide in a close friend, and most importantly, you need to talk to your husband. Both of you may need some kind of counselling.
You also need to be examined by a doctor at the earliest opportunity.
Do not allow this man to go scot-free for what he has done to you.
– CHRISTINE
