DEAR CHRISTINE, I feel shattered and I don’t know what to do. My husband, who is the cause of it, strangely enough, suggested that I write to you.
When what happened upset me, my husband was on holiday and I was at work. On that particular day I started feeling ill and I asked for the afternoon off.
When I let myself in with my own key and went to our bedroom, you can imagine the shock I got to find my husband in bed with one of my friends. They both swore that up to then, nothing had happened.
Well, I was so shocked that I ran out and went to my mother who keeps our little boy while we are at work. This was a week ago and I haven’t gone back home as yet.
My husband keeps calling and begging me to talk to him, but I find the thought of facing him very difficult. I love my husband but don’t feel that I can ever trust him again in the future.
– SHATTERED
Dear Shattered,
Don’t think too much about the future. I suggest you see him now and let him explain it all to you. Obviously, he is sorry and I’m hoping you’ll find it in your heart to forgive him.
There must be lots of lovely things you can remember about him, so don’t let this one thing spoil your entire future. There is your child, home and feelings for each other.
For the sake of all this, he owes you an explanation and you owe him a hearing. You must go home to him or let him come to see you as you discuss and try to resolve all that has happened.
You are not going to find the peace you probably so much desire until you confront him and both of you air what’s on your mind at this point in time.
Don’t start blaming or accusing; it will only make things more difficult for you and him.
– CHRISTINE
