Dear Christine,
I REALLY enjoy reading your letters of good advice. I am willing now to get your opinion on something that’s bothering me.
I am a married woman but my marriage broke up a few years back. I met a man after that and we went along very well until he made a change and we disagreed. This is about three years now and I have decided that I am finished with that.
However, within that time I met another man last year. I am 52 and he is 58.
We got together last September and up to now that I am writing to you, he has not offered me one cent to buy a handkerchief. At Christmas he gave me a small present. I don’t know how to assess this man.
I do not like asking men for money. I’ve never done it before and I don’t want to do it now that I am not working.
This man lived a bachelor’s life all his days, although he has five grown-up children. He lives alone. He is a wealthy man and I know he could afford to give me something.
He says he loves me a lot but I would love to see the proof. He takes me to clean his house for him, and anything he asks me to do I do it because I love him.
He telephones every day. When I get vex and tell him not to come back, he ignores me and comes just the same.
I don’t know what to do. I am inclined to quit because it seems like he is taking me for a ride.
– F.P.
Dear F.P.,
I think that before you seek for a lover, you should work on either divorcing your husband or working on your marriage. At this stage, divorce seems to be the best choice.
I am often of the view that a man does not necessarily have to give a woman cash just because the two are in a relationship. If both people are working and there are no children involved, I believe the woman should not be looking for the man to support her. I could be wrong in this regard, but that’s my opinion.
In your case, I feel you two are close enough for you to draw to this man’s attention that you are not working and would it be possible for him to help support you.
Since you care for him, try that. If it does not work, get off the ride. You’ve travelled too far already on a trip where you seem to be the only one footing the cost (self and service).
– CHRISTINE
