DEAR CHRISTINE, I follow your column all the time and my heart goes out to some of those girls who get left in the lurch with men. I agree with you that if they give themselves some time, all will come right again.
It takes courage but it can be done. I speak from personal experience.
I was 17 when I met a married man who flattered me with attention and gifts. Against my mother’s wishes, I continued to see him. He always held a promise of marriage before me, as he and his wife were almost through their divorce.
Well, I got pregnant, the divorce came and went and it was at this time also that he went his way. To add to my misery I lost the baby.
I called to let him know when I was in hospital. He never turned up. As you know they do not keep you very long there and so I phoned to let him know when I was at home. He still did not show up.
I insisted that he let me know what was wrong. He did just this in the most brutal way possible. He said he did not care for me anymore and stopped calling him.
I was so hurt Christine, but strangely enough, itwas his attitude and roughness that caused me to catch myself.
His saying outright that he did not love me was the best thing that happened to me. I am getting back on my feet and I know that I’ll be a bit more careful in the future. In fact, I don’t ever want to see a married or engaged man again.
P.P
Dear P.P,
Thank you for sharing your sad yet courageous experience with our readers. It is amazing how well one can bear the truth.
It’s the doubts and vague promises that keep you hanging on. Now you don’t have to wait on the phone call or a visit. You can get back into the mainstream of life.
CHRISTINE
