Dear Christine,
SOMETIME AGO I was at a certain restaurant and I saw my best friend’s husband with another woman. The way they were holding hands and flirting suggested they were more than friends.
I don’t want to meddle, but I feel it would not be right for me to tell my friend about what I saw.
I have tried putting the thing out of my head because when I see them together (my friend and her husband), they look so happy.
I feel he is a hypocrite. Please tell me what to do, Christine. After all, the wife is my best friend.
– I.C.
Dear I.C.,
You will do nothing. What you saw is what you saw and your interpretation of what you saw may not necessarily be a case that he is cheating. However, even if he is, it is still not your business to tell your friend anything. You could end up without a friend.
If you feel led to say anything, talk to the husband. If he appears more amused than disturbed, it may have been a mild flirtation after all.
On the other hand, if your friend should learn that he is carrying on some kind of affair, just be there for her, but never let what you have witnessed be known. You’re not being deceptive in any way; just being wise in how you deal with this matter.
– CHRISTINE
