Dear Christine,
I JUST HAVE to air my views, so allow me to do so publicly.
I am really fed up and annoyed when I read in your column (at least every month) about people blaming their childhood upbringing on where they are now. To me, it’s just an excuse.
Christine, I lost my virginity to a woman (a lesbian) who molested me. I was molested by my own father and by age 17, I was pregnant. I had my second child at 19 – for a married man.
I did not complete my secondary education, but I worked hard for my children and supported them when their dads refused to do so. I did not turn to Government for help because no one in Government got me pregnant. I trusted God and took whatever legal job I could to make ends meet.
I am not saying that all cases are the same but, Christine, I went to the Vocational Training School, learned a skill, and worked my way through life.
I am now 34 years old and my two children are doing well at school. I thank God every day that he gave me enough wisdom to know when it was time to stop, think and make an about-turn in my life. I will also be getting married.
I want people to know that we cannot blame anyone else for where we are in life. Committing suicide does not solve anything, neither does complaining and running to the newspapers for short-term help.
People need to stop blaming their childhood for their own mistakes and decisions. If I can do it, anyone can.
Thanks for the space, Christine. Just print my letter – I don’t need advice.
– P.S.B.
Dear P.S.B.,
I have done as you requested and commend you for your achievements. Those who read will probably have a different perspective on life. – CHRISTINE
