Dear Christine,
I noticed a recent letter which was sent to you pertaining to a man who was very unfaithful to his partner.
Many times we men are made to look bad but when the shoe is on the woman’s foot, nobody says anything. Let me share the situation that I found myself in.
I was married for 12 years when my wife left our marital bed and got pregnant for another man. We already had two daughters when this happened. We were having marital problems, but at no time did I consider having a relationship with someone else.
We had our quarrels and disagreements over this pregnancy, but I knew I was fighting a losing battle when she started sleeping at the man’s house. Some men would have killed her, Christine, but I did not. I continued to look after the children’s welfare.
After the birth of this man’s child, she would take the child to his house and return home days later to sleep in the same bed with me. I knew from the moment she started sleeping at his home that the marriage was over. Things were never the same between us.
One day she simply asked me to leave the house (her family’s house). Christine, I made some fuss because as far as I saw it, we shared that home as husband and wife for 12 years. I believed if I was the one running around and it was my family’s house, I would have been told that she must be allowed to stay.
I initially disregarded her demand to move, but eventually did when I was financially able to do so and still look out for my daughters.
I simply want to say that men often get the bad end of the stick.
I will survive because I have always been a survivor.
I am not asking for your advice, I just wanted to share my experience and to show that men do have it hard at times in relationships. We have hearts too!
– Dave
