At some point in your life you might have been the victim of some form of jealousy. This emotion can be very damaging to any relationship and can stunt your emotional growth.
As unpleasant as this topic is, the facts are many of us work in environments where jealousy exists and it is compounded by envy, gossip and malicious acts. Let us face it; we spend half our waking days at work. Therefore, when jealousy and envy strike, the workplace is a terrible environment to be in as some workmates become consumed by it.
They allow this “green-eyed monster” to dig so deep in their souls that they cherish thoughts of hate, envy and gossip and go to any “length and breath” to discredit and dishonour others.
Some small things cause the head of this monster to rise. It could be a career advancement, outstanding work or just being too much in the spotlight. These things may draw positive attention, but do not be surprised, negative attitudes from colleagues may also surface. Do not expect all of your colleagues to applaud your success.
“The green-eyed monster” will strike and some of them will try to sabotage your efforts or work. They will give envious glances, make malicious comments or do anything in their power to harm your reputation. Be strong. These malicious, unflattering, spiteful comments show insecurity on their part and are ways to make them feel better about themselves.
Here are four ways you can handle workplace jealousy “head-on”:
• Be professional at all times with workmates. Keep your attitude and body language in check to prevent falling prey to immaturity. Avoid unnecessary interactions with jealous colleagues.
• Avoid distractors. There are some co-workers who will try to oppose your ideas and stop your vision. Surround yourself with positive co-workers to stay motivated. Avoid gossiping. Remember “the same dog that brings a bone takes a bone”.
• Focus on job performance goals. Place your energy into constructive activities that can help you avoid losing sight of your work responsibilities. Display positive energy.
• Stand up for what is right even if you stand alone. It takes some time and effort as well as a commitment to do something differently to create sustainable change. Others will come around in time. Be an agent for change.
Where jealousy does not exist there is a greater capacity for workers to learn from the skills and competencies of each other through teamwork to build organizational capacity. True leaders walk a different path from the crowd. Be bold, focused and positive in spite of what others do or think. It is the only way to create a ripple of change and stamp out jealousy.
• Rhonda A. Blackman is an educator, a National Development Scholar and past president of the Early Childhood Association of Barbados Inc. Email theopenhaversack@gmail.com