Dear Christine,
I HAVE a very big problem that is driving me out of my mind. I would like your help before I get hurt.
I am in love with a 54-year-old man. I am 33. We have been friends for the past three years and we are both married.
I am a mother and my husband and I are not with each other because he is living in New York. He calls me and sends money for the children, but not too often.
This man I am in love with gives me money every week. We make love every two weeks. My problem is that he runs around with a lot of other women. When I ask him about it he asks me, “If I give you money, what are you worrying about?”
He says he loves me but I consider he has been acting strangely, especially during the past few days. I love this man and I don’t want to get hurt, Please answer me quickly. What do you think is happening?
A
Dear A:
This man is eating his cake and having it too. He is enjoying the best of both worlds. As long as he meets his obligations to you, what more can you honestly want? You have the option of leaving him altogether.
You’re both married to different people and will never be able to commit to each other unless both of you divorce your existing partners.
In any case, he is running around even though he is married and you’re in the picture. The main fact that he runs a round should make you want to get out of this relationship sooner rather than later.
– CHRISTINE