DEAR CHRISTINE – Intrigued by new neighbour

Dear Christine:I LIVE in one of the newer developments and there is a man who recently moved across the street from me. I am very attracted to this man.He moved there about six months ago. He looks like he is in his 60s – tall, very distinguished and good looking.I did some “investigations” and found that he is a returning national and a divorcé.I watch him and his house all the time and I do not see any women going there.I sometimes see a young lady going there with some kids and once or twice he has entertained friends.One of the other neighbours told me the young lady is his daughter.Other than that, he appears to live a very quiet life.I am absolutely fascinated by this man.He works in his garden a lot and every week he washes his car – sometimes bareback.If I am driving in and he looks my way, I wave and he waves back.There is something about him that intrigues me. I dream about him and pretend that we’re together.Christine, I’m in my 40s. I own my home and I have a decent career.I was even considering renting my house, but since this man moved in I have changed my mind.Christine, do you think I should approach this man and tell him how I feel.Do you think I am living in a dream world or do you think, if I approach him I may have a chance?He may very well be just as lonely as I am.– LOVESTRUCKDear Lovestruck:Do I think that you should approach this man and tell him how you feel?Yes, approach him, but no do not tell him how you feel.There is no harm in approaching him – but certainly not to tell him how you feel.He doesn’t know you, so he’ll certainly run from you if you approach him to “tell him how you feel”.My suggestion is if you live in the same community, bake him something – a cake, sweetbread, something – and take it over. Tell him you’re being neighbourly.See what his response is. If it is positive and encouraging, then you can continue by drumming up a conversation every now and then. If he reciprocates, then it may be a sign that he is interested. If he doesn’t, then you’ll know that he’s not that into you – or certainly not interested in you in the way that you are interested in him. Of course if that’s the case your dream will be over.Try it – you never know – some dreams come true.I hope this doesn’t turn out to be a nightmare for you – for example, he may very well be patiently waiting for his family to come in from overseas.– CHRISTINE