I HAVE?SAT and watched one of my good friends being lied to, cheated on, infected with a sexually transmitted disease, and made a fool of by a man she is head over heels in love with.
I need her to wise up. I need her to stop being like most women in Barbados, who believe that everything their men tell them is the truth.
I need her to see him for what he is. It’s time the truth came out, so here it is.
Everything was perfect between my friend and her man until a brown-skinned young woman started working in the neighbourhood. My friend’s boyfriend fell in love with that woman and has since become entangled in a web of lies, sex and deception.
This man is so good that no matter what truth reveals itself, he always manages to lie his way out of it. Not that his excuses are plausible, but my friend is so blinded by what she thinks is love that she believes he can do no wrong.
Other mutual friends have seen this pattern in him before, with his children’s mother who my friend made fun of. But now the tables have turned and she’s the one with the sleepless nights.
This brown-skinned woman lives opposite his workplace, so he spends a lot of his time with her, so much so that the two of them have become inseparable and he tells her everything, including intimate details of his relationship with my friend.
Although my friend sleeps with him every night, he failed to inform her of the chlamydia infection they shared. All he did was give her medication and told her that he got an infection when he got into an accident and the antibiotics were to prevent her from contracting this infection.
How stupid could one woman be? But what hurts me is how he mocks my friend when he invites them both to the same outings. Though they never meet, the new love is well aware of my friend’s presence. Although my friend has seen the new love on several occasions at several outings, she still doesn’t know her.
For example, at a fete his new squeeze proceeded to jam on him in front of my friend and all she did was ask him who the woman was, and he replied that he didn’t know her. And she believed him as people always do in such settings.
What is hurting me, too, is that he has my friend very self-conscious and suffering from self-esteem, so much so that she joined a gym because he said she was putting on too much weight. She is also in the salon on a regular basis getting her hair and nails done.s
Lately, my friend has been jumping through hoops trying to please him, but he stills find the time to meet his new love.
She was with this man for approximately six years and can’t see that she had to propose for them to get engaged. Yet she still can’t hear anything about a wedding. Also, he continues to spend an inordinate amount of time with his children’s mother.
I know so much because I am friends with both of these women and it isn’t easy sitting back and not saying anything. This man needs to realize his motto “don’t hate the player, hate the game” is wrong, and what he is doing is wicked.
