Dear Christine,
MY HUSBAND has recently been unfaithful to me and I am wondering if I should forgive him or move on. This was not the first he had been unfaithful.
Ten years into our marriage he told me he was unsure about our future together. I was shocked because I thought everything was going well for us. I soon discovered he was seeing someone at his office.
Eventually, he left our home and rented an apartment. Within three months, he asked to come back. He said he was sorry and would give the marriage a try. I took him back for the sake of our five-year-old daughter.
Two years ago I found out he was seeing another woman. When I confronted him, he did the same thing. He moved out again. Three months ago he asked if I would forgive him. He said he had lost his job and could not pay his rent after January.
My family has told me not to take him back. However, my daughter needs her father and I am thinking about giving him a second chance. We have a mortgage together but he has not been paying his share of it as he should. I can manage on my own as far as the mortgage is concerned, but should I take him back?
– Y.B.
Dear Y.B.,
I cannot answer that question for you. What I can do, is beg you not to keep making the same mistake over and over again. Take a look at your husband’s pattern. He starts a relationship, then he moves out. Doesn’t that seem odd to you? Don’t you get the impression that he really does not want to be with you and is only asking to come back because he lost his job?
The choice is yours, but bear in mind that while he will always be your daughter’s father’s, he does not necessarily always have to be your husband.
– CHRISTINE
