DEAR CHRISTINE: I am 20 years old and my boyfriend is 33. He has three children from a woman. I have none. This man is saying that this woman is living at him because of the children. He comes by me every night and does not leave until around 11 p.m. at the earliest. I am employed and so is he.
The thing is, whenever the woman sees me she has quite a lot to say. She has even turned up at my work place to make a noise but I ignored her.
This man is now telling me that he wants to have a child with me. He has also asked me to leave my mother’s home and find a place where we could be together. He told me he would still have to go to see his children.
Do you think I should get a child from him and leave my mother’s house to live with him?
– O.W
Dear O.W:
It would not be advisable to have a child just because this man says so or to leave your parents’ home for one provided by him.
In looking around can you think of one such relationship in which the couple is happy for any length of time? You are still very young and I’m sue with some personal appreciation of yourself you could make an effort to make something more worthwhile of your life than setting up house with this man.
If there was nothing taking place between him and the mother of his children, she won’t be turning up at your workplace to cause a scene.
Keep on with your job and study to improve yourself. In a little while you should be able to make wiser and happier choices than what you are presently involved in and which threatens to get you into a deeper hole. Rise and shine.
Don’t follow the mob of women who are baited into living relationships with irresponsible men who keep things going only until they see someone else they want to play house with.
– CHRISTINE